Step Moms: Breathe for Stress Relief!

While I was putting together materials for a workshop on self empowerment, I was struck by how this one might be of use to Step Moms everywhere who might need a personal way of relaxing from time to time.

Here goes…

Deep Relaxation Exercise

(There are benefits to recording your relaxation practise if you have the equipment to do so…the playback of guided instruction in your own soothing voice is just one of them.)

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First Comes Love…

When first entertaining the idea of becoming a part of a family already in progress, outside of familial input, and please note the word input and NOT support…. I was lucky enough to have received guidance and support from two men I adored and respected.

One, a handsome and engaging former school teacher turned psychologist and the other a teddy bear of a University Professor and highly respected expert in his field. Pretty good dream team of support if I must say so myself!

 The advice and insights they provided however were almost diametrically opposed and now, soon approaching 10 years of being ensconced within this family unit of mine, I finally understand why….

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Step Mom Comment on a Comment

A while back, sometime this past Spring, I received a comment on this blog talking about how studies have shown that divorce is indeed bad for children. I have thought about this comment a lot over the past number of months, thinking about personal experiences and those of my own family and friends, and now to that comment, I have this to say….

Where would we be today, as families, as communities, as a world, if not for the people who chose not to abide by what studies have shown and instead followed their own minds, hearts and dreams?

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Step Moms and Courage

Courage seems to be a trending topic on this blog as of late.

It’s interesting too as I have found myself over the years, as challenge reared it’s sometimes ugly head over and over again, contemplating the words of Mother Teresa where she talks about not wanting to attend and Anti-War rally. The flip side of that is, she said that if you’re holding a Peace rally, she’d definitely be there.

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Choose Courage and Ban Guilt

Guilt… it is a word we adopt early in life and come to believe is a character trait to practise with pride.

Guilt…we are led to believe means putting the needs of others before your own and carrying guilt proves you are self-less and good.

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Step Moms Rock: The Insta-Family

Recently while away on a training seminar, I was regaled over lunch by three moms talking about giving birth to their various children and the arduous and painful experiences they each had. After listening attentively to each individual story, and while on the escalator back up to our conference room, I said to one of my lunch mate moms, “Now imagine coming home one day, on a day no different from any other, and all of a sudden having 3 pre-teens…who wants to talk about painful?”

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The Incredible Expanding Step Mom

Well, there was no hiding me in a corner when I became a new Step Mom, no sir-ee!! All of a sudden, the cupboards were filled with chips and cookies and sugar filled cereals, things I would never buy for myself as a Single Girl in the City and, well, I ate….and then I ate some more, and then, well, I ate even more. Busy schedules led to lots of pizza and meals on the run and before I knew it, whammo…tight clothes!! Tight clothes led to buying new clothes a size bigger and then gosh darn it more new clothes a size larger than that.

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