On a cold winter night, at a stop sign in the middle of nowhere, on the frozen tundra better known as Saskatoon, during a conversation about whether I would ever have kids or not…. I proudly declared to my BFE (Best Friend Ever)…I think I’ll become a Step Mom.
And you know what they say about sending stuff like that out to the Universe…ask and you shall receive. And although this theory has not worked well at all for the winning of the lottery, it did indeed deliver on the Step Mom front!
Oh Yes, my tall dark and handsome, one and only true love came complete with 3 bundles of yet to be discovered joy at the ages of 11,12 and 14….I saw that cringe…yikes is right!!
We have certainly had our less than stellar moments over these past 7 years, but we have also laughed a lot, gut wrenching side splitting laughter that even garnered the remark from one teen aged dinner guest…”What a happy family.”
In my endeavour to navigate these new and tricky waters, I launched a full on Internet search for all the resources I could find to prepare myself for what lie ahead, as I subscribe to the philosophy of the Dalai Lama that states being prepared for the stages of your life diminishes the stress and allows for the opportunity of happiness….but sadly I came up short.
As I was lucky enough to be born on a continent rife with opportunity,I have come to believe that our lot in life is the result of the choices we make and not necessarily of the circumstances we find ourselves in. As such, some of the online Step Mom groups that are of tremendous value to others, just didn’t appeal to me personally.
As a Gemini a business builder and a leader,I need ideas that lead to solutions. So, I had to create these ideas, test them, fail miserably at some of them and celebrate the success of a few others of them…all by myself. This blog and subsequent events etc. are a testament to that journey, ever a work in progress, and if one woman is positively effected by the ideas inspired by the writing on these pages, then I will consider this mission of mine accomplished.
Rock ON Awesome Step Mom, Rock ON !!